We Built a World on Monogamy. AI's About to Shatter It.

One job. One partner. One path. We called it stability but it was control. AI doesn’t just see the cracks. It pulls them wide open.

This Isn’t Chaos. It’s Clarity Breaking Through.

People used to say I blow shit up when it starts working.
Like it was a flaw. Like I couldn’t hold success without self-sabotage.

But that was never the truth.

The truth is, my goals changed. I changed.
And the roles I was in, husband, founder, speaker, employee, couldn’t hold the version of me that was trying to break through.

So I had two choices:
Shrink to fit it.
Or burn it down and rebuild something true.

I chose the fire.

Because sometimes the dream coming true isn’t the victory.
It’s the reveal.
It’s the “holy shit this was never actually mine.”

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“You Blew It Up” Is Code for “You Refused to Shrink”

I’ve been the change agent. The disrupter.
I’ve tried to move systems from the inside.

But the truth is, you can only get so far when the old white guys with the keys are still guarding the doors.

You wanna know how they decide who’s trustworthy?
A fucking tie.

That same noose around the neck that has been passed off as professionalism for 100 years.
Meanwhile, I’m optimizing for alignment.
Nervous system. Mental health. Creative flow. Truth.

But they don’t trust that.
They trust sameness.
They trust scripts.
They trust control.

And I’m done performing it.

I’ve done it my way.
Loud. Chaotic. Nonlinear. Obsessive. ADHD-AF.

People watch it and go, “I don’t know how he pulled that off.”

And I know why.
Because I wasn’t supposed to.
Not in their system.

But I didn’t shove the chaos down.
Didn’t fake the mask.
Didn’t chase the path.
Didn’t wear the damn tie.

That’s cost me.
Money. Relationships. Peace.

And yeah, regret is honest.
But so is the relief of never betraying yourself.

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AI Won’t Break Us. It’ll Expose Us.

This future that’s coming?
It’s not artificial. It’s amplification.

AI is going to show us the stuff we’ve been too scared to say out loud.
Not just the cheaters and the liars, but the lonely. The unseen. The masked.

The patterns are already there.
We’ve just never been allowed to name them.

And the people who built their power on pretending they don’t exist?
They’re freaking terrified.

Because when AI holds up a mirror big enough for all of us to look into
We stop arguing about jobs and start facing the truth about how we live.

We know the two-party system doesn’t represent us.
We know most marriages are silent agreements to stop evolving.
We know most jobs don’t care if we live, as long as we show up.

We’ve known.
We’ve just never had receipts.

Until now.

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Unmasking Isn’t Destruction. It’s Return.

What if AI lets us work 3.5 days a week
and live the other 3.5 for joy, family, sex, silence, creativity?

What if we finally stop whispering our truths in group chats
and start living them out loud?
What if the diagnosis that cracked me wide open 13 years ago, ADHD and Dyslexia,
wasn’t the exception?

What if all of us are one mirror away from finally seeing how we’re built?

That diagnosis didn’t fix me.
It freed me.
It wasn’t a flaw. It was a preview.

It let me go back and re-read my whole life with new eyes:
All the “too much”
All the “not enough”
All the “why can’t you just…”

And suddenly it all clicked.

It wasn’t that I was broken.
It was that I was running an operating system for which no one had the language.

Until now.

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This System Was Built to Contain Us. Not See Us.

Let me be clear: I’m not here to bash monogamy.
I’m here to question monogamous thinking.

The kind that says one path, one job, one partner, one identity for life.
No evolution. No deviation. No room for craving, chaos, or creative rebirth.

And when someone does break out?
We don’t ask how they did it.
We just try to drag them back.

We tell them to define it.
Label it.
Pick a lane.

“Oh you’re poly?”
“Oh, is this co-parenting or nesting or what?”

Because if we can name it, we can judge it.
If we can judge it, we can contain it.

But what if relationships are just… us?
What if jobs are just seasons?
What if identities aren’t fixed?

You know what would happen then?
We’d have to stop pretending control = safety.

We’d have to let people live.

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I Lived the Misfit Mantra. But Steve Jobs Isn’t the Misfit Role Model.

I grew up worshipping the Misfits. The disruptors. The ones who pushed back.

Millennials like me were raised on that famous Apple ad. “Here's to the crazy ones. The Misfits. The rebels.”

We believed it. We lived it. We built startups, broke rules, ditched ties, and dared to believe we could change the world.

Steve Jobs was the symbol of that. He made rebellion feel like a badge of honor.. Unapologetic. Unreasonable.

But let’s be honest,
he was also a terrible leader
and treated those closest to him the worst..
He was brilliant.
Visionary.
And a asshole.

He taught a generation how to be a rebel. But I swore I’d never be a rebel that way.

Because I’m raising daughters to be the change while also being kind and empathetic, and I’ve always believed in kindness over cruelty.
Empowerment over ego.
Truth over theatrics.

I don’t believe you have to burn people down to build something meaningful.

So I chose the mess. The softness. The discomfort of doing it differently.

And maybe in the old system, that made me invisible.
But in this new world, this AI mirror world
That softness?
It’s not weakness. It’s a superpower.

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So What If This Is It?

What if we stopped pretending privacy makes us safe
and started asking if maybe it’s just keeping us from knowing each other?

What if AI doesn’t replace us?
What if it just unmasks us?

Not who we say we are.
Not who we’re supposed to be.
But who we already are.

And it’s gonna be messy.
And painful and in some cases shocking.

But it’ll be real.
This isn’t a warning. It’s an invitation.

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We Were Never Asking for Permission. Just a Mirror.

Maybe we should stop obsessing over AI replacing our jobs.
Maybe we stop judging a story just because it has one em dash—especially if it’s telling a truth that’s spent decades hiding.

And how about we begin to consider the idea that AI might be the most significant human disruptor we’ve ever seen?

Not because it’s smarter.
But because it’s the first thing honest enough to tell us what we’ve been hiding.

The mirror’s here.
We can look.
Or we can keep pretending we’re not already naked.

And wonder what would’ve happened
if we’d just let it all crack open
and finally told the fucking truth.